The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want.
>> Posted by Jo on Friday, 1 October 2010 | Comments: (0)
Think of a time in your life when felt successful or fulfilled, perhaps it was a promotion at work, buying a house or having a family. There could be numerous things which spring to mind, or even just one or two key events. Now focus on what the factors were that ensured success for you? You probably had a clear view of what the end point looked like, you may have had a good idea of the steps you had to take to get there and you also called on your own strengths to tackle any challenges that you may have encountered along the way. Characteristics such as determination, drive and focus likely feature quite highly.
By focusing on what you want, you ignite your desire to achieve it. Conversely, if you focus on what you don't want, then it's a sure fire way to ignite your fear.
Sometimes my clients don't know what they want. Their vision or ideal is vague or fuzzy and so during our coaching sessions we spend time getting clarity around what they want to achieve professionally or in their personal life, often it involves both. You can be pretty sure that if something is going very well in one aspect of our life, there may be other aspects which, if left unattended for a long time, may suffer as a result. I've had many clients who work long hours and feel they just don't have the time to enjoy their free-time - they come to me seeking to address their work:life balance. In fact it isn't about a work:life balance, it's actually a life balance full stop. Work is just a part of what we do, along with all the other things like finances, relationships, health, spirituality and learning. The coaching process empowers my clients to gain a deeper understanding of their priorities, their habits and where they're spending their time and enables them to question and address areas which need attention. It's about closing the gap between where my clients are today and where they want to be.
Here's a useful technique I've used successfully with my clients: What if you were to see yourself as the CEO of your own corporation? "Your name here" Ltd? Most large companies have a finance department, operations department, personnel/human resources, etc. This company is all about being successful for its shareholders and being the best that it can be. So what if you saw yourself in the same way? You have income and expenditure (finances), you have your daily routines (operations), you deal with other people (HR), etc? And YOU are the CEO of this company! What's possible for you now? What would it enable you to do that's holding you back right now?
It's a pretty powerful tool which can have immediate impact. Now would be a good time to give this a go. Why not give try it and share your comments here with other readers.
By focusing on what you want, you ignite your desire to achieve it. Conversely, if you focus on what you don't want, then it's a sure fire way to ignite your fear.
Sometimes my clients don't know what they want. Their vision or ideal is vague or fuzzy and so during our coaching sessions we spend time getting clarity around what they want to achieve professionally or in their personal life, often it involves both. You can be pretty sure that if something is going very well in one aspect of our life, there may be other aspects which, if left unattended for a long time, may suffer as a result. I've had many clients who work long hours and feel they just don't have the time to enjoy their free-time - they come to me seeking to address their work:life balance. In fact it isn't about a work:life balance, it's actually a life balance full stop. Work is just a part of what we do, along with all the other things like finances, relationships, health, spirituality and learning. The coaching process empowers my clients to gain a deeper understanding of their priorities, their habits and where they're spending their time and enables them to question and address areas which need attention. It's about closing the gap between where my clients are today and where they want to be.
Here's a useful technique I've used successfully with my clients: What if you were to see yourself as the CEO of your own corporation? "Your name here" Ltd? Most large companies have a finance department, operations department, personnel/human resources, etc. This company is all about being successful for its shareholders and being the best that it can be. So what if you saw yourself in the same way? You have income and expenditure (finances), you have your daily routines (operations), you deal with other people (HR), etc? And YOU are the CEO of this company! What's possible for you now? What would it enable you to do that's holding you back right now?
It's a pretty powerful tool which can have immediate impact. Now would be a good time to give this a go. Why not give try it and share your comments here with other readers.
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